Control can be good, bad, or more often in between. There is no standard by which it can be measured. Sometimes control is a detriment when a person uses it to coerce, be it aggressively or passively. Sometimes it’s good when used appropriately. Other times it can be a toss-up. The reality is, control is prevalent in any relationship. And when couples are jockeying for control, it always becomes a contest. Why? By nature, people are typically competitive.

I have yet to see a divorce where control was not an issue or the issue!